Being in love with someone can be confusing at times. When you find that special person you can quickly find yourself trying too hard to keep them which can sometimes look like your mistrust them. But you do have to ask yourself this: “Am I being over possessive and jealous of my partner?” Once this begins to set in then it can be very destructive in a relationship and can just chip away at you until you start to fall apart. It will gradually start to rule your life and you will convince yourself that the person you love is cheating on you.
What you have to try and do is work out what it is that is causing your feelings of jealousy and whether they are actually rational or not. If you believe that your partner is straying or likely to stray then why is this? Are they showing interest in other people or are other people showing too much interest in them, maybe at work or socially? Are they just naturally popular with other people and unaware that they are giving away this attention or receiving it or is there more to it? If you do have a popular boyfriend, girlfriend, husband or wife then firstly try and think to yourself just how lucky you are! Your are obviously with a real catch, so this should be something to be pleased about!
Things may actually be completely different to how you are perceiving them but once you have gone down the path of mistrust then it is very easy to build up a case for guilt. It only takes your partner to come home late a couple of times in a row for you to wonder why, and if the answers don’t quite fit then you can quickly lose grip. You must try and remain in control of yourself and accept what your partner is telling you and don’t become over possessive.
Talk to your partner about it but do just real off a load of quick fire questions as though you are trying to catch them out because this will just begin to drive a wedge into your relationship. You could just say that you were a little concerned and you would just like to put your mind at rest but here is a word of warning. Once your partner has given you their answer then accept this and move on. Don’t not keep returning to the subject otherwise you will get nowhere and I guarantee you will break up. Remember, this is their life too and you do not own them, so what will be will be. If you cannot accept them as they are then you may need to question if this is the right relationship for you.
Jealousy and possessiveness can be a cycle so even if you do find yourself with another partner then it can begin all over again.
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