Are self-confident people as insecure on the inside as you? There are many people in your world that appear confident on the outside, but are relying on their Pretend to make it through the day. Now, the Pretend self is one of three selves that make up our personality.
With the Pretend self, you create an image of yourself that you want to be. You aren’t, however, that person on the inside. A kind of fake it ’til you make it situation. On another level, there is the Negative self. This identity collects all the bad things that have ever been told to you and creates a destructive version of you. In the middle is the Authentic self. This is the tender person that you really are.
For many, the fear of being judged prompts those to hide behind the Pretend self. A lot of energy is consumed to use the Pretend self as a shield. As you know, it can be exhausting. Those who use the Pretend self on a daily basis will eventually lose touch with the Authentic self.
Now, the Negative self is fueled by insecurities. Certain actions bring the Negative self to the forefront. Like, when someone calls you a name, you become upset. Your Negative self actually believes that you symbolized that bad remark. In Change Your Life in Seven Days, Paul McKenna states, “Any negative traits you identify are not really yours – they belong to your negative self-image and were programmed into you when you were a child. By identifying them honestly, you can let them go.”
Conversely, the Authentic self is whole and content identity deep inside you. This self is the one filled with joy when loved one are nearby; the one that harbors dreams and aspirations. This powerful self is unstoppable if it allowed to govern a person’s actions. Permitting the Authentic self to take over is easy. But, you must identify the negative and false dialogues that Negative and Pretend selves are running. You have the opportunity to change your life. Start working on instant confidence using self help books such as Change Your Life in Seven Days. Once you’ve figured out how to get back on track to become happy on the inside, then you can move on to fix how other people treat you.
Roxane Wehr believes the longest journey begins where you stand. Make that choice today and find that you can change your life in seven days. Download the free NLP and Hypnosis Workbookonce you are there to get started.
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